1. Love is not exclusive to romantic couples. Love can include family, friends, animal companions, passions for humanity and causes in general. Loving is a selfless act that does not require an invite. Valentines Day, on the other hand, is viewed by many as a couples only occasion.
2. Love is a purposeful lifetime commitment; a virtue. Valentines Day is more like the eagerly anticipated celebration you have in kindergarten where you exchange silly character cards and gorge on sugary cupcakes.
3. Love is the silent acts of kindness exchanged by two or more people that’s not necessarily romantic in nature. Valentine’s Day often resembles a high stakes poker game where your hand is top secret and your expectations are not necessarily in sync with reality. In the end you could end up winning big or leaving with even less than you started with. It’s often all or nothing.
4. Love is not synonymous with a couples honey moon phase; the sky’s covered in brilliant fireworks and the pair is blissfully intoxicated by one other. Valentines Day however, is the one day people expect to successfully recreate their once bright colorful combustion of love or have it gifted unto them. Planning or expecting a spontaneous explosion of romance on Valentines Day usually leads to disappointment.
5. Loving blends with our every day lives and becomes an effortless endeavor. For some, Valentines Day can be a prickly sharp thorn, especially if their significant other has expectations that are ridiculously high and/or out of sync with their own.
6. Love can be bittersweet. It has peaks and valleys. Valentine’s Day in all its sweet glory is intended to rival a life-sized gummy bear that’s been dipped in molasses and rolled in pixie stick dust. It can be too much.
7. Love is a beautiful heartfelt emotion that’s free to give and receive. Valentine’s Day is mostly about stuff… even if it’s a fancy dinner; it’s bought and paid for.
8. Love is not boastful nor does it seek public validation on Facebook or Instagram. Valentine’s Day and all it’s materialistic shiny loot are plastered predictably all over social media in an attempt to earn acknowledgement. Insecurity is boastful and needy.
9. Love just happens. Valentine’s Day is a pre-planned event on the calendar that our society is not only conditioned, but pressured into acknowledging.
10. Loving awards one a higher level of satisfaction not found in receiving alone. When you give love it feels warm and fuzzy. Valentines Day on the other hand predictably results in masses of people feeling unloved and lonely, simply because they weren’t pampered within their expectations or are currently lacking the romantic interest of another.
Being part of a couple is not the key to happiness; LOVING within the confines of your present life and social situation are.
The key to happiness belongs to you and you alone.