In other words- How to mind your own beeswax and not reap unnecessary emotional havoc every. single. damned. place. you. go… like the freaking Angel of Bullshit.
There’s the Angel of Mercy, the Angel of Healing and the Angel of Death… so why not the Angel of Bullshit?
After all, bullshit is incredibly abundant, it’s everywhere and it’s uber-exhausting.
As you already know, I’m not a fan of bullshit.
To keep this post slightly shorter than say the fourth edition of War and Peace, we’ll only be discussing social drama, the type of social fuckery involving more than one
person victim in a circle, whether it’s friends, family or business.
Social drama is distinctly different than solo drama because it attempts to suck you into it’s spinning vortex much like a revved up Daddy Dyson on steroids.
Solo drama is more like when your premenstrual estrogen spewing 14 year old can’t find her poofy red scarf that compliments her Rosemary’s Babys charm bracelet, hair #307 is out of place and IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT, so she screams bloody murder and misses the bus.
Entirely different animal.
In a nutshell, solo drama is often just a case of raging hormones that causes temporary psychosis in young ladies.
If you’re a parent, you’re also a professional ignorer of unnecessary noises coming from your offspring.
Let me be über specific here and get this derailed drama train back on track.
How to Avoid Social Drama for Dummies- so that you don’t become a trollish hen that people avoid like the plague or a pesky groups of Jehovah’s witnesses on a sunny Saturday morning.
#1- If your friend is venting about her spouse, significant other, boss, family or another friend, your job is to LISTEN with your ears and not regurgitate unconfirmed bullshit or venom.
Stay out of it. This drama tango is between two people who are not you.
Your mouth is only advised to engage, when being supportive and/or objective. Be careful of what you say.
The following examples are ACCEPTABLE responses which demonstrate supportive and/or objective interaction that does not add fuel to the Drama Queens furnace.
[ Drama Queen- blah blah blah blah blah..... !!!!! ]
You- “That totally sucks rotten velociraptor eggs, sorry.”
You- “Bummer. Why don’t we watch Thelma & Louise and order double cheese pizza.”
You- “Let’s go to the mall and buy shit we don’t need!”
You- “I feel your pain which is precisely why my bff is a dog.”
You- “I’m here for ya, man. Let’s go down a jug of Red Cat and fagetaboutit!”
You- “Here, have a super-size Godiva chocolate bar from the extreme emergency vault.”
You- “When I’m pissed I clean. It’s excellent therapy because… shit gets done!”
You- “I have extra xanax, should I make them into cookies or a cake? You pick.”
UNACCEPTABLE examples and sure-fire techniques to ensue that drama erupts much like the angry honey bees in the famous Winnie the Pooh scene
You- “I’m texting Alvin right now to find out if he’s privy to the details of Simon and Theodore’s peanut smuggling operation that we didn’t get a cut in.”
You- “Well, Jenny Piccolo saw him making eyes at Potsies step-sister at Arnold’s.”
You- “I never liked your asshole mom, sister, boyfriend anyway.” <– This one will blow up in your face every. single. time. when the parties reconcile.
How can anyone be this level of dumb?
You- “Let’s shoot her kids cat and leave it in a pot on the stove like in Fatal Attraction.”
Poor kitty has enough problems.
Plus, no picking on animals ever.
What is wrong with you people anyway?
You- “Do you want me to call Chatty Chelsea’s cousin, Know-it-all Nicole and try to extract information?”
You-“My mom works with her Uncle Max at Mission Control and there was this one time he heard the mailbox say this…”
You- “Bring it. This girl’s got PMS. I need to cut a bitch”
These are all examples of FUELING the drama.
Just super-glue your ass to the bleachers and be a spectator for fucks sake.
Also, zip your lips if you’re a person who happens to naturally breathe fire… or unnecessary bullshit.
The world certainly doesn’t need this kind of vindictive chaos. Our planet is already fucked up enough.
*If you are guilty of being a generous provider of drama fuel, you’re undoubtedly a Drama Queen yourself and should promptly cut that shit out, because quite frankly, it hurts my brain and messes up the delicate balance of positive energy flowing throughout the universe.
Think about it. The other person is already in turmoil. Do you really think adding gasoline to the burning wreckage is going to be productive?
Your friend needs balanced objective support, that’s not in the form of bashing, belittling or manipulating.
Lead by example. Be wise, calm and logical.
In the event that the particular situation is causing you or your friend undo anxiety, consider taking up kung fu, sword fighting or kickboxing.
I’d bet 30 minutes of any of those activities would burn off like an entire fun-sized Snickers bar. Plus, you’d get rid of toxic pent up energy.
However, if you continually chose to be the Oreo filling in the middle of others conflicts (that has absolutely nothing to do with you personally) then just maybe… you live for that shit.
You may not even know it, yet THERE it is.
Behavior patterns are conclusive.
The person smack dab in the eye of every. single. conflict tornado is obviously the fixed instigator-monkey-in-the-middle and absolutely the common denominator… who’s not necessarily an unfortunate victim of circumstances.
Drama is everywhere.
Everyone is faced with it in some shape or form on any given, if not every single day.
You alone make the decision to either A. deflect it or B. nurture it.
Deflecting can best be exercised by both responding in a calm appropriate manner, and keeping it short and simple.
Responding immediately and passionately to each and every rant, whether be by text, fb message or voice mail, not only condones the wannabe royals behavior, but also validates it as justified and appropriate.
Let the inferno die down before someone gets burned.
If other peoples names continually edge their way into your conversations… you just may be a Drama Queen, the Angel of Bullshit and an absolute pain in societies ass.
Be mindful of your actions.
Think with your brain instead of responding to your emotions.
Don’t be a busy-body troll who’s hair stands up, much like Pinocchio’s nose- every single time they fabricate or exaggerate the truth.
Nobody wants to play with those badass colorful degenerates.
Now, lets all join hands and take a deep cleansing breath.
Let the dramatic hate mail roll…