Propaganda for 50 Shades of Grey is everywhere. Not only are snippets flashing across the flat screens in our private living rooms, they’re popping up on covers of magazines at the doctors office, and on the radio as we drive our kids to school. The hype is practically inescapable.
The underlying message is sex and like it or not, this message has been let loose in society, where it’s being absorbed by incidental osmosis… most notably by the next generation.
I’m certainly not insinuating that sex is taboo and that we should not talk about it. Nor am I implying that the majority of young people understand or are even privy to the explicit details and inner workings of 50 Shades or the S & M culture, but I am, however, confident that the related hype supports the general message that – sex is all the rage… and kinky sex is even better.
It bothers me that it’s gone mainstream and its presence is inescapable.
Ready or not…
The $64,000 question is – will the naughty hype created by 50 Shades of Grey tempt young people to enter the sexual arena before they’re ready?
I respect the fact that S & M is a perfectly acceptable form of entertainment for adults. I get it – masses of hormonally overloaded mommies are embracing it as a new refreshing means of sexual escape.
This is absolutely not about anyones personal lifestyle. Quite frankly, I could care less if people choose to light themselves on fire and fornicate on a bed of rusty corkscrews.
The simple fact is – Children do not live in protective G rated bubbles.
The problem begins when adults have CONVERSATIONS in public places, and they do. Even if we’re careful with our spoken words, our tone of voice and body language emit strong messages. Children only need be present to absorb the message expressed by their friends moms and other grown-ups.
50 shades of sexual hype is spreading faster than a drop of food coloring in a glass of water.
Chill out Mama Bear, this is not about your parenting skills.
God only knows what Carol Brady did behind closed doors. For all we know she hung by her pasties from a trapeze when Mike shut the light out. Ones sexual escapades has nil to do with their parenting skills.
Nobody is insinuating that you are promoting 50 Shades openly or that you’d allow your child to read the book or watch the movie.
And lastly, nobody is condemning or judging the S & M lifestyle as a whole.
It seems to be the general consensus of most parents, that since they’ve had conversations with their children about sex, they’re reasonably confident that they’ll make the right decisions when the time comes.
This may be true.
Let’s at least admit that it can get pretty confusing when it’s obvious that mommy is head over heels over Mr. Grey.
Actions speak louder than words.
Parental guidance is without a doubt the best protection. However, just like discussions on underage drinking, smoking and drugs, the outcome can more-often-than-not be a crap shoot.
No technique is flawless, so I wouldn’t be so fast to boast that your stellar parenting skills are armour enough to protect your children from making bad choices. Keep an open mind.
Dangle a sweet sexual Snicker bar in front of a child, reiterate that it’s not appropriate for them and what’s likely to happen?
They may or may not.
I’m not assigning blame to 50 Shades enthusiasts.
I’m merely speculating that when a society chooses to loosely toss around a concept like 50 Sexual Shades of Naughtiness, we’re destined to be faced with a generation that’s somewhat desensitized to sex. Not to mention, the fact that we’re inadvertently giving the thumbs up to engage in a new level of sexual exploration.
Some children are getting an earful before they’re ready, simply because 50 Shades is a thing. It’s out there.
Will this newest bundle of readily-available sexual information cause us as a whole to carelessly put the cart (50 Shades of fun) before the horse (fundamental sex education)?
This may certainly not be true for all children, but the possibility is real, and these poorly guided youth share space in the same society.
It’s not so much the effect this will have on my own children that concerns me, as it is the breakdown of yet another societal value.
How can we as parents begin to encourage abstinence, safe sex, and the fundamentals of a healthy relationships when our kids heads are being filled with propaganda that kinky sex games are all the rage?
It’s tough to compete with societal pressure.
To add assault to injury, young girls tend to be highly volatile emotional beings: heartbroken train wrecks in waiting.
Do we really want to go there?
Take a moment to ponder the potential emotional wrath associated with this new level of submissiveness and vulnerability.
Do I fault the author or film producers for creating 50 Shades? No.
I absolutely respect the fact that some people are awesome parents and it’s possible that 50 Shades of Hoopla will not effect their children.
It cannot be dismissed, however, that the seed of submissiveness and codependency, not to mention a new realm of intermediate sexual exploration has been planted in mainstream society.
Attitudes are infectious.
Peer pressure is powerful.
Are we encouraging a new progressive atmosphere in society where sex is no big deal?
When women raise eyebrows and chat nonchalantly about this latest fad on the sidelines of their kids soccer games, they are absolutely fueling the embers for the next sexual revolution.
It’s an attitude and it’s conspicuous.
It definitely leaves this mom unsettled.
On the flip side, it also paves way for necessary conversation.
I don’t pretend to have the answers to this particular dilemma. What I do know is that our society is becoming more and more complacent about sex in general and that’s something to think about.
The question is – what role do you play in all this?
Food for thought.
A Mommy Bloggers Letter to her Children regarding 50 Shades
A message to parents from a child psychologist
A message to young people from a child psychologist
50 Quotes from 50 Shades… YOU decide